The Toxic Narcissistic Father is like an Ogre in the home.

He comes home from work and descends upon the household like a big black cloud and you wonder as a child, why can’t he work abroad?

Sound familiar? Yes I thought so.

The Narcissistic Father has many Archetypal traits of which I have divided into different areas below.

This kind of Father does not want you to grow up and be independent because your independence is a threat to him. He wants to control your life and is threatening, resentful and abusive physically, emotionally, psychologically and sexually.

This kind of Father’s love is conditional and he seeks your narcissistic supply.

He saps your confidence, self esteem, creativity and self perception, takes it for himself destroys it and throws it back at you, because of their own fears and inadequacies whilst putting himself on a pedestal wanting you to worship his corrupt and powerful image.

 

THE CONSTANTLY CRITICAL FATHER

He criticises your dress sense, your music your hair your friends and your converstion.

Be-littles and dismisses your goals and feelings as if you are invisible.

Your best is never good enough if you got a B in Maths he was expecting the A.

If you got 87% in your spelling test he shows his displeasure by saying what about the other 13%

He will have you jumping through hoops just to please him because as you should know your best is never good enough!

 

THE CONTROLLING FATHER

He wants you to be totally dependent on him and sees you as his possession and under his thumb will not help you with climbing up the ladder in life as this will be seen as gaining your independence and growing away from him.

and will not teach you to drive or if he does he will criticise all your manouvers.

 

THE ABSCENT FATHER

The type of father who was never around or even if he was he was, more interested in his own work and blew his own trumpet as to how important that was being the Breadwinner and not your goals hobbies or interests.He leaves it to your Mother to bring you up then criticises the results.

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THE ABUSIVE FATHER

Is very quick to argue and raise his voice in order to frighten and keep you in your place. Doesn’t listen to your point of view, cows you down (even towering over you) and talks at you rather than to you. Also uses shame based criticism when you do something wrong.

I.e. will call you stupid or what were you thinking, or talk you to death just for the sake of hearing his own voice.

Uses cornering questioning to back into a corner and also gaslights when you bring anything up to deny your version of events.

You can NEVER win an argument with this type of Father.

You are the problem and it was always your fault.

If you make him angry he will pin you down and punch you in the face or throw you against a wall.

The Emotionally Absent Father

He doesn’t take much interest in you and has great difficulty showing any emotion,

or affection and sees this kind of display as a sign of weakness and a loss of control.

He will never validate your feelings of sadness, happiness, humour or worry etc.

 

The Narcissistic Father Characteristics
 

Abandonment issues - Daddy or Mummy issues

Psychological Abusive- Mental Mind Games

Emotional Abuse - Emotional Mind Games

Physical Abuse - Violence

Sexual Abuse - Groomed or Violent.

Verbally Abusive - Swearing, insulting.

Gaslighting - Denial of your version of events

Changing History - Similar to gaslighting, but making a promise then retracting it.

Controlling - having to run everything past them or my way or no way.

Co-ersive Control - act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten a person.

Be-littling - Negative disparaging harsh comments targeting intelligence or appearance etc.

Colossal Liar - Lies about everything to gain an advantage

Threatening - Glaring, raising the voice abrasive or aggressive reaction to being asked a question.

Jealous - Feeling threatened and in competition with his children

Arrogant- Thinks he knows it all

Aggressive- Forceful in reaction or action

Grandiose – Thinking he is better than everyone else and high on his own pedestal trying to empress people all the time.

Entitled – Presumed need of something.

Self Justifying - “Well I did my best” and frequently referring to this phrase to justify the type of upbringing provided.

Volatile - Fiery over reaction especially in conversation and an difference of opinion.

 

The Narcissistic Father Videos

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CHANNEL LISA A. ROMANO BREAK THROUGH LIFE COACH INC.

Children of Narcissistic Fathers and the Damaging Effects:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fnan-QEzxdU&ab_channel=PersonalityUnleashed

 

PERSONALITY UNLEASHED

HOW TO DEAL WITH A NARCISSISTIC FATHER ( 8 EFFECTIVE WAYS)

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CHANNEL DOCTOR RAMANI

Narcissistic Fathers

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Narcissistic Fathers and the damage they do to their children

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QIrqPc_1rDs&ab_channel=TheEnlightenedTarget

 

CHANNEL BREENY LEE

7 TYPES OF TOXIC FATHERS

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=59sGOxguoFM&ab_channel=BreenyLee